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Faith Challenge - Oct-Dec 2019
Faith and Families
Fix the family and you fix the world. We are living in a world where the basic unit is seen as the individual. The reality is that the basic unit of society is the family and the principal teacher of Children are their own parents, and this includes faith teaching.
The Christian church, and particularly the evangelical church has forgotten this, and we developed programs. Unfortunately programs have always been relatively ineffective but we have used them as our principal method of outreach and evangelism.
I am a 3rd generation officer and a many generation believer. For years I believed it was the programs i was part of (Sunday School, Junior Soldiers) that brought me to maturity in my faith and to my calling as a Salvation Army Officer at the age of 13.
In recent years I have seen that it was a small amount due to the Church but mainly due to my families influence and teaching.
The basis of this is from Deuteronomy chapter 6 (and is the basis of the D6 movements teaching).
Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul and mind' - that's discipleship.
'(parents) teach it to your children'. That's evangelism.
I have discovered through my research that this 'family' evangelism from Deuteronomy accounts for 96% of members of the Salvation Army. The stuff we learnt when we were young particularly from our parents.
The other evangelism we are told to do, the great commission, if done well, accounts for 4% of our members. I don't think it has ever been more than 4%.
The reality in our society today is that the teaching of Deuteronomy 6 is proven beyond doubt. The principal teachers of children are their own parents - and what they are teaching their children, in the majority of cases, is a life without faith. Parents are teaching this very effectively.
The church, I believe, is in decline simply because the Christian message is not being passed on generationally.This has always been the number 1 biblical principle. We have based our faith development on the great Commission and made it number one, and not family and generational teaching.
No program the Church offers will counteract the teaching given by parents in the vast majority of cases.
The churches great opportunity is to help parents teach and raise their children.
i often say, the devils greatest work in the past 50 years is to convince us that our families are OK. The reality is that families are a mess.
Fix the family and you fix the world - and the Church.
Kevin Unicomb.
Who is the target market for your idea?
Everyone
Have you seen this model being effectively used elsewhere?
D6 is working well but their model is still to 'Church' and program based.
Why do you believe we should trial this model?
I see myself as a researcher. This model needs input from academics and practitioners to develop it. this model needs to be part of every community.
What is the format of the gathering? (I.e. Online or face-to-face)
Online to begin. Would love some discussion and sharing of ideas.
What resources would this idea require?
An open mind and different thinking.
What Department are you from?
I'm a Corps Officer
edited on Oct 28, 2019 by Elizabeth Bland
Sarah Grounds 4 months ago
Maybe parenting courses/groups
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Derek Hughes 3 months ago
Love your work Kev!
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Kevin Unicomb 3 months ago
Here's an article I wrote a few years ago.
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meredith moore 3 months ago
Kevin I agree with you, that is my experience also. For me Sunday school & Corps Cadets continued to reinforce & help me remember the Bible stories. I didn’t realise the part that learning a text for Sunday School played in knowing Scripture. The sad thing is Kevin that most of today’s parents don’t have a Christian Faith to pass on & the next generation will be worse. These are the things we need to remember when people accept Christ for the first time. AND for Christian parents not to advocate this wonderful responsibility.
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Heather Unicomb 3 months ago
Have a look at this video clip, encouraging children to ask their parents about God. prayer,
God designed families as the most important place for the next generation to be raised as God’s people.
https://www.facebook.com/stephen.unicomb/vide...NDQ5MjQ0OTU1MA/
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Karen Clark 3 months ago
Thanks Kev. You have shown that through your own family and your grown up children are witness to this. I had a conversation with a certain 18 y.o. in my family this week who thanked us for what we have done to disciple him. He said he many not have always appreciated it at the time, but he's so glad we were intentional in having regular family devotions and praying, questioning, learning, struggling through issues together. "We will tell the next generation" is crucial and I'm happy to support your idea. Excited to see what comes of this discussion. Bless ya :)
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Kevin Unicomb 3 months ago
Check out the attached file. Is it time to do away with Driver's licenses?
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Colin Hopper 3 months ago
I want to give a big shout for this Idea. Yesterday I attended an NCLS workshop in Brisbane. It was made very clear by Ruth Powell (NCLS presenter) that faith sharing within the family is still the the major means of people coming to faith. She made special mention that today there is a unique opportunity for mum and grandparents to have a major faith influence in members of their family coming to faith. She said that the church today should major on equipping families to share faith in meaningful ways.
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Darrell Wilson 3 months ago
Good on you Kevin - you have my vote
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Mike Ryan 3 months ago
I think you have a small part of the answer Kevin. What you are saying is we can grow the Salvation Army faster by procreation than other methods tried so far. Regarding the Army's efforts of the Great Commission - this has been a failure (as with other Christian groups) because we have done it incorrectly. We do not use fishing methods to catch fish, we use the method of programs to create sheep - this does not allow the presence of God to be release but simply human endeavors, hence the low success. Christian groups continue to use programs without questioning the low success. Your thoughts have merit for building strong Christian families within the Army, but the Army would cease to exist by the time you could "add" enough members.
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Kevin Unicomb 3 months ago
Thank you Mike for your feedback and questions.
Last week on the ABC's show 'Australian Story' we learned about a movement 'sober in the country' that has been created by an individual 'Shanna Whan'. Shanna as a young country woman was abused sexually 4 times in one year, and from that time for many years her life was controlled by alcohol and parties. 5 years ago she gave up alcohol completely and out of her experiences the movement 'Sober in the country' has emerged.
I was amazed as farmers, who had been drinking for many years, just because that's what farmers do, talked about the impact of one woman on their lives, and how many farmers are giving up alcohol because, more than anything, they have been told you don't have to drink to be an aussie bloke.
When CO at Wollongong about 10 years ago we had a movement (which is still running) called the 'first floor program'. It certainly doesn't fit the 'program' mould that are relatively ineffective - the first floor program is brilliant.
Jane, who created the first floor project about 30 years ago and headed it up until she died, came up with the statistic that every person in addiction, impacted the lives of 42 other people - mainly family members.
So, as adicts from Wollongong were referred to the Army's rehabilitation centres Jane and her team worked with their families. Her reasoning was that so many addicts who were given appropriate help in our rehabilitation centres, then returned home to dysfunctional and unhealthy families. The cycle just began over.
The results at Wollongong were amazing.
1. Family members invited to be part of the first floor program just came. They saw the value of the teaching and saw immediately that the teaching and support would improve their family life.
2. Many families helped became mentors and Jane had a group of healthy families ready and willing to support other families, at our centre, at their homes or where ever they were needed.
3. Ten years ago we had 15 Soldiers in the Corps who came through the first floor program. Many Corps people, who were part of a very traditional large Corps, became active volunteers in the program.
4. Many other families joined or reconnected with other churches.
5. The ministries formed out of this movement to support the 42 people impacted were amazing. The grandparents group - many addicts parents have custody of their grandchildren. The homework club - some of the young people of the Corps would provide a mentoring service to the children impacted while teaching sessions were in progress for their parents and grandparents. Mentors training and sharing groups. Jane was a great artist - the arts group allowed people to express themselves. A separate art group was for local police who had experienced trauma and Jane, as the Wollongong police chaplain, had an enormous impact on the police force in the Illawarra region.
But the most remarkable statistic was, that after 10 years of the first floor program, more than 100 very dysfunctional families were involved, and not one of these families had experienced a marriage breakup.
Mike, what I am saying is that when a ministry makes sense, then people do and will come.
I do not have all the answers, but when I talk to people about family, for example, if I talk about parents being the principle teachers of their own children, and tell them that the bible tells us that in Duet 6, they are surprised and interested. Firstly every parent needs to know that they are the primary influence of their children (and that can be positive or negative) but most parents simply have never been told that.
By the age of 4 we have 50% of our adult intelligence, by the age of 8 we have 80% of our adult intelligence. That's easy to show and talk through but we don't learn that as parents. The result of not understanding these basic facts about our children results in what I see as the basic issue we have in Australia today. Immature adults.
Teaching stuff like this that makes sense and is biblical. I believe it gives the church credibility and a new way forward.
With a year to go before retirement, I have witnessed in the Army so many new ideas. All the church growth stuff that was suppose to make everything right , new ideas and new directions, but as I look back the test I give all of these things is 'did they make sense'.
And the answer I continually come back to is 'no they don't'.
In fact, more than anything, the things that I have been taught have been more about
the personalities behind them than the ideas themselves.
I go back to Duet 6 verses 5 to 8.
It starts in verse 5 by saying 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all our strength. Never forget these commands I am giving you today...' - That's discipleship.
Verses 6 - 8. Say. (Parents) teach then to your children....at home....when away...resting...working. Tie them on your arms....Write them on the doorposts of your houses and on your gates.' - That's evangelism.
This passage has often been used to support the idea that 'it takes a village to raise a child'. Often this is used to justify our Programs. But I disagree with this thinking. Actually I have very little regard for the idea that it takes a village to raise a child.
These verses are about your own family. Teach your children, at home, working (when this was written the majority of workers work at home - Joseph for example had a home workshop and Jesus was impacted as he saw his father working). Tie them on your arms and foreheads. Write them on your doors and gates.
If you see Colin Hoppers comments attached to this idea, he says the NCLS survey backs this up - that the family remains the main evangelism method in the church today.
Because we have misinterpreted this verse we have lost sight of the vital role of the family and substituted programs.
Then we have made the great commission our number one evangelism method.
Let me finished by taking you to Matthew 23 from verse 34. You know this story well.
In the previous verses Jesus had made the Sadducees look pretty ordinary.
So the Pharisees saw an opportunity to earn a few brownie points.
They came up with a good question for Jesus. 'Which is the greatest commandment in the law'.
Jesus answered ' Love the lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind'.
And I think that everyone in his audience that day would have just kept going, 'parents teach it to your children, repeat it over and over.......' This passage and this teaching was, and still is, so important to the Jewish faith, that today as Jewish families say the sheema prayer at home every day, the importance of the family as the principle tool of evangelism is never forgotten. I an am told that the Jewish faith has a 4% drop out rate even i Australia.
I believe Jesus audience understood this when he responded to the Pharisees, but we, the evangelical Christian Church, have let this one slip through to the keeper, as we have taken our eyes off the family and moved them to programs.
I believe Jesus was confirming in this passage that the family was the principle biblical tool for evangelism, because he then goes on to say,
'The second most important commandment is like this, 'Love your neighbour as you love yourself'. That's evangelism too - that's the great commission - reaching out to your neighbour - the number two way we are told to reach people - but family always has been and always needs to be number one.
Again, I said before that when something makes sense it will work. To me strengthening families makes a lot of sense.
If you fix the family you fix the world. In a biblical sense, if you give the family the place that I believe God has placed it then the world begins to make sense. I think, even in the church, we have lost sight of what family should be.
Sorry this took so long Mike, I had shoulder surgery about six weeks ago and I am still struggling with my arm in a sling. Hopefully it comes off tomorrow (the sling that is - I want to keep my arm).
Kevin.
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Hugh Corner 2 months ago
totally agree with trhe phil;osphy of Kevin Unicombe
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